The Power of Questions
Two weeks ago here at the Westside Blog, we talked about resetting your family for the season of Fall and how one might have a structured conversation to do that. Part of this conversation involved asking questions. Questions are powerful.
Questions are the driving force in relationships. They express curiosity and interest and ascribe value to the details of whatever it is you’re asking about.
Simple questions between strangers – How are you? What are you up to today? How is your summer going? What are your plans for fall? – create a safe zone for everyone involved and breed friendship.
Big questions between two people who love each other or friends who matter to each other – That situation seems hard, how are you handling it? How’s that feeling for you? How can I help? – create an even deeper safety to feel and express and “carry each other’s burdens,” as Paul said to the Galatians(6:2).
Our lives and conversations move so fast and technology has truncated our communication in such a way that we slip into short, easy answers. We share less of ourselves and forget to seek out the deep truths of those around us. And we get it. Those conversations can absolutely be uncomfortable as you try to hold a burden that is an awkward shape you haven’t carried before.
Questions are not without their risks, but their reward is far too great to leave untouched.
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, once can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”